Showing posts with label Self-help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-help. Show all posts

Sunday, January 19, 2025

This is How Your Marriage Ends

 Nonfiction by Matthew Fray


This book is about the author's real marriage and how it ended, or at least that's what I thought. That's what I was interested in reading, in any case. I hoped for more of a memoir than an instructional manual.

Actually it was more about marriage in genera and how to connect better with one's spouse, like a regular sort of self-help book. He was quite scant on the personal details, unless it was about his pseudonymous clients. Ah, well! What's a voyeur to do?

This was a pretty good book with some sound advice  though.

Tuesday, April 16, 2024

It Didn’t Start With You

Subtitled: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

Nonfiction by Mark Wolynn

This was an interesting psychology book about how the traumatic events our ancestors experienced can actually live on in our own DNA, even if we’re not aware of it. 

I really liked the case studies, and I kind of skimmed the more scholarly parts…

Thursday, November 16, 2023

The Truth About Things That Suck

 Nonfiction by Mindy Anderson


This book was recommended to me by a friend who has had way more than her share of adversity. The author of the book has also been unfairly dealt a big helping of trouble: held all of her life by a crippling and progressively worsening disease that keeps her in a wheelchair and dependent on other people for some of the smallest tasks most of us take for granted. But she makes a great case for how attitude really is everything, keeping a positive outlook while still being realistic about how much life can suck.

Here’s an excerpt: When paralyzed by fear and in a situation that felt insurmountable:

“I did the only thing I could: I took the next step. Every. Single. Time… Minute by minute and day by day, I did what came next. I tried not to think about what came after that. I just focused on the task before me.”

Wow. This is great advice type book and I can see why the author is a successful motivational speaker. It was not as much of a story as I usually like, but still a good book.

Saturday, December 19, 2015

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying-Up

Nonfiction by Marie Kondo.

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing
http://www.barnesandnoble.com

I'd read a lot about this book in various sources; people said it was fantastic, wonderful, etc. I did not find it to be worth such a build-up, and it was not "life-changing" by any stretch, but it wasn't a bad little book at all. It's about organizing your home, which the author calls "tidying."

(By the way, I think that's a pretty good word, although we never use it much in American English. It's different from "cleaning," which would involve scrubbing and cleansing, but that's the word Americans would usually use. I'd say, for example, that I'm going to "clean up" the living room, but what I mean is that I'm going to pick things up and make the room look nice. I don't actually mean I'm going to get soap and a scrub brush and wash down the place, so really I SHOULD say "tidy up." Still, it sounds weird to me as an American. But I digress.)

Marie Kondo is an organizational expert in her native Japan, and I can see why she is successful. I mean, talk about a person who loves her work; this chick REALLY cares about "tidying."

She writes about how she used to tidy her house, including her siblings' rooms, just for fun when she was a child. (Did you catch the phrases "as a child" and "just for fun" in that sentence? Seriously.)

She also seems to identify a lot with the things she tidies. For example, she tells a story about a woman who rolled up her socks into tight balls, which, according to Marie, is the absolute WRONG way to do it. Think how unhappy the poor socks are, to be rolled up so tightly! We should, she says, fold things the way they naturally WANT to be folded.

I'm not making this up by the way. Like the Lorax, who speaks for the trees, Marie speaks for the clothes.

Joking aside, I felt like her techniques were pretty good ones, especially in that she advises getting rid of as much junk as possible. She also gives specific guidelines about what to keep and what to toss, which is helpful.

One thing I disagree with her strongly about, however, is what she says about tidying being a one-time chore. Marie insists that, once you have tidied, your house will magically stay that way forever. She claims that NONE of her previously slob-like clients have EVER relapsed back into messiness. She is sure that once you have your tidying done, you will easily and naturally return everything to its proper place after using it. No more worries!

Obviously this woman does not have children.



Update: 2/13/16 I read an article in People about Marie Kondo. Last year sometime she had her first baby, so he should be turning one year old pretty soon. This means that, coming up this summer, her little bundle of joy ought to be starting to wreak havoc on her tidy life. Forgive me a cruel chuckle at the thought. Bwahaha.

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

The Gifts of Imperfection

Nonfiction by Brene Brown.

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/

Generally I don't like nonfiction much, and I don't care for self-help, but this is the exception.

The title/subtitle says it all. Great book.

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Love and Respect

Subtitled: "The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs."
Nonfiction by Emerson Eggerichs.

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

http://www.barnesandnoble.com

You may have noticed I've been reading a lot of marriage books.

It seems lately that people keep giving me marriage books, or recommending them.

Are y'all trying to tell me something?

No, seriously, it was explained to me once that reading books on marriage, or attending couples' seminars, et cetera, should not be reserved for those whose marriages are "in trouble." Because if you value your relationship, you want to study and improve it. The same way that if you enjoy golf, you want to read books about the game, and watch videos or whatever to get better at it.

So I'll take the flood of marriage books as a compliment.

And this was a good one, by the way.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage

Subtitled : "Unlocking the Secrets to Life, Love, and Marriage"
Nonfiction by Mark Gungor

Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage: Unlocking the Secrets to Life, Love, and Marriage
http://www.barnesandnoble.com

Good marriage book; more entertaining than most.

Also I felt it was pretty practical. For example he spent nearly half the book on s-e-x. Now that's practicality!

Especially for a man....